Becoming a homemaker: an introduction

 

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A few definitions from the dictionnary to start off…

Frugality:  the quality of being frugal, or prudent in saving; the lack ofwastefulness

Homemaker: A person who manages the household of his or her own family,especially as a principal occupation.

These few years of university, spent on my own/ with my brother for a few years taught me a lot about homemaking. Not only I learned that domestic skills such as cooking, cleaning and washing your clothes were important- sure they were, but something I have learned is that a homemaker has this unique ability to “set the tone” in her house. I have learned that you who are and how you manage your home will without doubt have an impact not only your immediate sphere of influence, such as your family and your guests, but beyond that, that will influence society. Home is the theatre of family, marriage, motherhood, fatherhood, interactions with siblings, quality time. It tells a lot about who we are really.

It is where you can extend hospitality. Where your husband, children, or friends, can find comfort and love and acceptance and a listening ear and loving hugs after a day where, maybe, things were not easy. Where things did not go as expected with the boss, where school was a burden, where temptations were constantly threatening your family. Where uplifting words are a rarity, and spiritual encouragement is clearly not a priority.

I am, as you can see, convinced that we women have this unique capacity to nurture others and use our creativity and talents to serve others, so that, for them, coming back to home will not feel like a chore, home will not be a place to be deserted and to escape as soon as possible but a place to which they will run because of the spirit of love they will find there.

When I was sixteen, for some reasonn I had to care for my siblings and I had zero knowledge of how to run a household. I clearly remember not knowing at which moment I had to throw pasta because I did not know if the water had to be just hot or boiling. Eventually I learned. Though I am far from being Martha Stewart, there are some things I learn every day that I thought I could share with younger girls.

Just a remark: as single young women, I realized that we have no idea of the impact we can have on younger girls/teens. By mentoring them, we are caring for the next generation and they are in great need, in this world where role models are rare, for an older sister, a mentor that will teach them godly things and at the same time, sympathize with them because they will have gone through similar things. Let us not waste that precious time called singleness ! It is not a time spent of the bench, but something to be used for the glory of God, and for others.

I have learned that homemaking does not necessarily imply being the perfect hostess, a gourmet chef or something that surpasses other. I will come back to that in a future post, God willing, but it is a way of life that aims at loving God and serve others through our skills.

I shared a definition of frugality because I believe frugality is a must as a homemaker: for lots of reasons I will detail later, I believe that a household cannot function efficiently if money is not well spent and if we are careless in the way we buy things and use them.

Grab a cup of tea, make yourself home, and join me as we talk and discuss about ways to make our home a place where godliness can flourish, and people can be loved.

 

Stéphanie

N:B: I want to thank every person who came to visit my blog since I start blogging. Reading your comments make my day !

 

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Becoming a woman of virtue

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 Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children,  to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.” (Titus 2:3-5)

Today, through the Holy Spirit’s help, I want to obey the Lord and become a virtuous woman:

-I want to love my family not only in words, but in deeds also;

-I want to be self-controlled and not be enslaved to anything but to Christ

-I desire with all my heart to be pure, in this world in which purity is mocked, I want to remember this: “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God” (Matthew 5:8). I want my mind and my eyes to dwell on things… that are true, noble, right, pure, what lovely, admirable, excellent or praiseworthy… (Philippians 4:8). The verse I posted last time made a deep impression on me: it was a key verse in the conversion of Saint Augustine of Hippo, whose battle was mainly with lust. As Spurgeon once said, the food on which silkworms feed predict the color of the silk they will produce and as well, I think what we see, what we dwell upon, what we read, will go in our minds, where the battle is, and therefore, I want to feed on the Word of God.

Talking about purity, I must confess something: there are things I have decided to give up, especially in the area of music because some music and songs have the power to influence your emotions so deeply… and therefore your thoughts, and I felt like I had to give up some of these things.

But as Jim Elliot said, “”He is no fool who gives what he cannot keep to gain that which he cannot lose.”

-I want to be busy at home… and not be a busybody. In this world where people read gossip magazines, where we spy and stalk each other on Facebook, an attitude that often breeds envy, jealousy and evil things, join me, my dear sisters, as I strive, today, to heed the words of the Apostle Paul:

Or even when we were with you, we gave you this rule: “The one who is unwilling to work shall not eat.”We hear that some among you are idle and disruptive. They are not busy; they are busybodies. Such people we command and urge in the Lord Jesus Christ to settle down and earn the food they eat.” (2 Thessalonicians 3:10-11).

Would you please join me in prayer as we not only read these words, but apply them in our daily life in order to honor the Lord ?

“Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like.” (James 1:22-24)